Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
Happy Tuesday, Widso World! Dr. Retirement is here for today's live session. I don't have a topic for the day, so it will just be whatever it is you want to talk about. If nothing, then perhaps it's just this post today. It was a tough week emotionally with the passing of two dear friends, both too young. One by choice and one by illness. Such a hollow feeling...
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Chestnut
23 Mar
I am very sorry for your loss!!
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
Thank you.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
Retirement comes at a time of life when we're closer to our ultimate destiny of transition from living to not. Those we leave behind grieve for us. And though it is commonly expressed in the seven stages, for me it's often hard to move through the first one for a while. Unless it's someone close to me, I tend to not move to the later stages. The 7 stages of grief: Shock and denial. Pain and guilt. Anger and bargaining. Depression. The upward turn. Reconstruction and working through. Acceptance and hope.
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ChestnutHelper
23 Mar
Yes losing dear friends is hard.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
Indeed.
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PineappleHelper
23 Mar
Vert sorry for your loss.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
Thank you.
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ChestnutHelper
23 Mar
I also lost a brother and sister that were too young. It’s never easy.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
One thing that really chaps my hide is Facebook and their memorializing (or not) of accounts. They want either a photo or PDF of the actual obituary in order to memorialize it if advance instructions weren't prepared. I find getting daily notices of birthdays of late friends disturbing. Especially when I hadn't learned of their passing until someone replies to my birthday greeting on their timeline with information of their passing.
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PineappleHelper
23 Mar
I lost a friend Feb. 13th to COVID-19. We were friends for 40 yrs.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
I've lost several friends to the virus, but thankfully nobody in the immediate family.
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PineappleHelper
23 Mar
It's been hard to accept.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
One thing to consider is to let a family member, trusted friend, or estate executor know what to do with your social media accounts when you depart this earth. Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn, and more -- all may need to take down or memorialize your account.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
In the past 10 minutes I did some searching to find out what's what with different social media accounts when the account holder dies. Each one has different options, so it's important to make a list of each account, the username, the password, and clear details of what is to become of the account when you die. Not something pleasant to think about, but often nothing else can be done unless the media platform makes the determination that you really are no longer alive. For some of my Facebook friends, they still have "active" accounts and get posts, even though they are no longer with us.
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ChestnutHelper
23 Mar
Hadn’t thought about it, that’s helpful.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
Thanks for the feedback! Much of my prior week's posts have also been informational.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
As the country slowly but steadily moves through vaccinating those who want to receive it, what are you most looking forward to doing again? My family has stayed in a small pod of no more than 12 contacts this past year, and it's been hard, for sure! And even though we'll continue to mask up when out and about, we're looking forward to outdoor music concerts and storytelling events again. And WINERIES! I'm blessed to live in an area of the world that is surrounded by many different wine regions: Napa, Sonoma, Monterrey, Amador, Suisun Valley, and more. Can't wait for the tasting rooms to reopen!
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ChestnutHelper
23 Mar
I’m not too far from quite a few Texas wineries. That will be nice.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
They pop up everywhere!
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ChestnutHelper
23 Mar
I am getting ready to eat supper so I will say adios.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
Thanks for visiting!
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
Also looking forward to taking our 2 1/2 year old grandson out to see more of the world. For the past year, it's been very limited, of course. And to see him react to new things is such a joy!
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
23 Mar
That's it for this week -- until next Tuesday, stay safe, mask up, distance apart, and be well!
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