Have you ever said ´yes’ to things you really meant to say no’? Was it easier for you to avoid a confrontation? Are you the people pleaser type? Rest assure that you are not alone. I’ve been there until I learned to follow my own instinct and follow my own desires. When I learned to say ‘no’ I was judged because I was always please others. I was always bending forward to meet people’s needs, while avoiding my own needs. For me it was a long process but I achieved my goal. Some people associate the word ‘no’ has being rude. I’m a pleaser, helper, fixer, so saying ‘no’ felt impossible. It’s no surprise that we live in the fast lane....when we’re feeling overwhelmed we need to look at the unnecessary things that we can avoid doing. You might be surprised that a lot of those requests/chores are for others. When I get requests I ask myself: 1- Will it have a negative impact on someone’s health? 2- What is my benefit in saying yes? 3- Will it matter if I say no? 4- Will it matter at the end of the day? This has helped me throughout my process. I am no longer a people pleaser, I am no a ‘me pleaser’. I no longer say ‘yes’ to the things that don’t matter to me. I’ve learned to say ‘no’ because I come first. My anxiety has gone down big time. Saying ‘no’ has given me so much health wise. I have gained some self esteem because I now respect myself. Have you ever felt this way?
Hey... are there any HSP people out here?
I can’t comprehend where all the time goes? Work absolutely drags. I finished at 10pm. It’s currently 1:30am here. All I have done is have my food really. Haven’t played no games. Done no writing. I’m having a rest from my workouts tonight. Yet it’s somehow already 1:30am? It’s really frustrating as there’s things I want to do but have lost complete motivation and hope to do so at the moment. And time going by so fast really isn’t helping
do you ever … feel another flare up coming on ? unfortunately my body hates me . i am allergic to anything but food and medication i am so scared of getting the covid vaccine incase something happens
We’re born with a voice, We often feel unheard, Here we are, Stronger than ever. They always seem, To pull us down, Drag our names, Into the darkness. We’re born with a voice, Let’s stand together, Raise our voices, For inner justice. Whoever tries to bring us down is already below us. Hugs
My daily Zen 👇🙏 Here’s a tip for you on thinking in a better way: Instead of thinking, “I don’t feel great about myself.” Think, “Today I choose to give myself love, care, and respect.”
Hello my name is Michael Breckner I am very religious and I believe in the word of God. I am 20 years old and I am biologically male but since 11 I’ve wanted to become a girl. As I got older I’ve wanted to become a girl even more. I don’t feel like a boy and I don’t like being a boy. I know the Bible says that God doesn’t make mistakes and that I was created in his image but I’m unhappy living as a male. I really want to become a girl. I am very girly and feminine and I want to be happy and become a girl. I want to be a daughter and not a son. I want to be a sister and not a brother. I want to be known as a girl and transition and become a girl but I’m afraid if I do that I will be going against the Bible and rebelling against God. What should I do.
Hi, I really just need a place to vent what I’m going thru right now. I just feel like my flatmate (and very good friend) doesn’t like me anymore and that scares me because I only really have two friends! (And I live with her obvs) And not to sound like one of those people but since she started seeing this guy she’s been different, this could just be the thing people do, but I’m also convinced I’ve actually done something I’m unaware of to piss her off? Or she just doesn’t wanna be friends anymore. I set up a birthday banner for her (she did on my birthday this year) and put her present under it and she flat out ignored it, like... didn’t touch it or say thanks or anything, it’s been nearly a week now and the present is still sitting on the table. It also seems like she’s speaking to our other friend more and less to me, we used to hang out in the flat and everything. And now I feel way too self conscious and anxious about her hating me that I’m too scared to talk to her. This has happened to me in the past with other friends so I can kinda see similarities here but... idk I’m defo past the point of thinking this is just me being paranoid, i really think something is up with her... just super stressing me
Anyone free to talk
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Been struggling a lot again lately, and I hope this reminder will benefit someone else out there too.
Active Listening Given all the listening that we do, you would think we'd be good at it! In fact, most of us are not, and research suggests that we only remember between 25 percent and 50 percent of what we hear. Join us at Joyful retirement on Monday at 9 am central time as we discuss the importance of active mindful listening and some steps to help us get there.